I Didn’t Know I Was Afraid of Being Loved Until It Tried to Love Me

I asked the Universe for soft love. Safe love. Present love.
And then when it came... I flinched.

Not because something was wrong with the person.
But because somewhere deep in my nervous system, love had become a warning sign.

I thought I was ready. I had done the work. I had lit the candles, journaled, cried, prayed, glowed up. But the first time someone actually saw me without trying to fix or control me? I panicked.

Real love was unfamiliar.
Not dramatic. Not chaotic. Not withholding. Not a game.
It just was. And that scared the hell out of the version of me that had grown used to earning love by shrinking.

That’s when I realized: I wasn’t scared of not being loved.
I was scared of being loved in a way I couldn’t control.

Because when someone meets you with presence instead of performance, you have to actually be there. And for those of us who spent years being everything for everyone, the idea of someone holding us—without needing us to over-function—can feel like standing naked under a spotlight.

But that’s where the healing happens.
Not in chasing love.
Not in avoiding it.

In staying present long enough to let it feel real.

You are worthy of a love that feels unfamiliar… because it's not rooted in your wounds.
Let it find you. But more importantly, let it keep you.

Ready to stop shrinking for love that can’t hold you?

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